Confessions of an “always late” person

I am always late. Usually 10 minutes, almost to the minute.  When something is very very important and a special event (e.g. Interview) I am on time, but otherwise I am late.  I think one of the reasons why is because I am results focused.  That is, when I sit down to do something, I hate leaving it just to move on to an appointment.  For example, if I am composing an email and it is 10:50 and I need to leave for an 11 o’clock meeting, I hate leaving that chore for later, since inevitably more emails pop up and I’m worried about losing my focus and train of thought. So usually I finish the email, then I am late to the meeting and people complain (usually as a passive aggressive tease or behind my back later 🙂 ).  But no one mentions when I am late how I also tend to be a *lot* more productive than 99% of the people.

I don’t like being in a society where we judge literally by the minute versus completing a task.  But it is the way of the world.  So the world will just have to wait for me sometimes :). And I’ll just have to tolerate the criticism.  After all, lets’s be honest, I am 48 and I’ve been like this my whole life – if I haven’t changed by now I’m not going to.

On a side note, I am rarely sick or call in sick or miss things – but I am late to them.    

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Confessions of an “always late” person

Relentless scheduled time is a challenge for me

In our second week of vacation, I am starting to wear down.  It isn’t the activity levels, which are high, but the constant scheduling of time – scheduled tours, scheduled dinners, scheduled meeting times.  I have always been a person who needs some structure, but doesn’t do well when measured strictly by the clock, especially in America and other structured socieities where being 2 minutes late is a major sin.  I do okay with some schedule – maybe one in a day – but not a relentless one.  My parents are extremely scheduled base, running their entire day by the clock, which made childhood very challenging and exhausting some times, which is ironic since by all accounts I was one of the most energetic (hyper) kids in the history of the world.  Perhaps part of the reason I was so hyper was because I was so overwhelmed by the relentless schedule of school during the week and parents on the weekend 🙂  Ironically, I am one of those people who is never bored, who can keep himself fully busy and occupied when left to my own devices without a lot of schedules. 

Relentless scheduled time is a challenge for me

I’ve mostly been cured of my chronic lifelong tardiness, but honestly being early is boring :)

Was 60 minutes early to the airport, so am killing time waiting for the plane to board.  This is a fairly new thing for me: always, always, always I’ve been 10-15 minutes late, but about 5 years ago — after nearly 20 years of marriage – wife M was able to coach me into being on time.  Now, I am usually on time and sometimes very early.  But here is what I’ve noticed – being on time is a nice habit and certainly less stressful, but can be awfully boring.  So many times now, I am spending what used to be an extra 10 minutes to get extra items done just killing time waiting for my appointment to start.  Plus I miss the adrenaline of racing around trying to make up lost time 🙂  In short, being on time is polite — but boring and less productive (for me, not for the person waiting for me)! 🙂

I’ve mostly been cured of my chronic lifelong tardiness, but honestly being early is boring :)