Wife M, Daughter L and I watched Under the Shadow last night. On the surface level, it was a scary movie (although not too over-the-top scary) that got scarier and creepier. But on a deeper level, like “Moonlight” and “Get Out” and “Babadook” I loved its message. We have a mother who was an aspiring medical student before leaving school to join her revolution; because of that she can’t pursue her dream (ostracized) later. Her husband, instead of fighting for her, says “maybe it is for the best.” As the movie goes on, and the Djinni take over the buliding, she becomes more isolated as a mother. Her husband is gone, her community slowly leaves, her workout tape is gone, her medical book is locked away then sacrificed for her daughter’s doll, she is told by her husband she is incapable of making her own decision (to stay) then when she decides to leave rather than leave she must stay (“if you love me”) and help her daughter find her beloved doll. When she escapes all this at last by breaking down the wall with her daughter, the book and the doll stay behind, indicating you can run but you can’t ever escape.
Oh my goodness, what a message this is to be a woman in a man’s world. What a powerful (but entertaining) movie.
Brilliant. Why wasn’t this nominated for an Oscar??
Unbelievable comments today from an knucklehead CxO. Where do these people come from (like rats infesting an abandoned house)? And how did we get to this point? And what will fix it?
This guy is a moron, but there are a million others just like him in power. He is just a little symptom of a larger disease.
Sexist CEO story
Although I grew up white and upper middle-class, I was bussed 20 miles to a high school that was 2/3 minority as part of a desegregation program in the 1980s (my parents gave me the choice of attending a local catholic high school, but honestly I didn’t want to spend a Saturday taking their entrance exam – an hour long bus ride every day was worth a full Saturday off). I didn’t know it at the time, but it was perhaps one of the greatest things that happened to me as a human being – I truly do believe I see all sides of the equation. At least I hope I do.
It is disheartening to me that I think America is as racist and sexist as it has been in my lifetime. But it is the worst kind of racism, one where we don’t overtly use deragatory terms, but where most Americans believed they themselves aren’t racist yet think we all (blacks, Hispanics, women, etc.) have equal rights and opportunities. With widening income disparity, manufacturing jobs residing over seas, increased college tuition, the fact that half of low income people don’t have online access (NPR), that a Presidential Candidate who wants to build a wall in the same land that has The Statue of Liberty hasn’t been beaten/arrested, that we’ve slashed taxes and thus social programs, and that American’s doesn’t believe that we are racist/sexist — it is only going to get worse before it gets better.
Reading about Kam Chancellor’s recent encounter at a local gym where he was called a heroin addict on a 911 call, seeing that there is not one NBA women’s basketball coach, reading that male doctors make (on average) more than female doctors, and knowing that our society has imprisoned innumerable blacks and poor whites — all just for starters — is incredibly disheartening.
I wish I could change it. I wish I could lead the change. But honestly, I can’t. I’m too tired from chronic fatigue, and frankly I am not magnetic enough. But I will keep my eyes out for protest marches, opportunities to encourage others, opportunities to join. Perhaps I’ll start wearing symbols. And I’ll do whatever I can to promote equality for all.