My friend IB has been a very good friend for over 15 years. She met and married a good guy over 5 years ago, and they have two beautiful daughters. So it was a very strange dream last night that wife M, my family and I were staying in a nice hotel and happened to bump into my friend, who was dressed formally with a large gathering of people in what turned out to be her surprise wedding to an obnoxious man who I’ve never seen before.
When I saw IB in the lobby of my dream, she was insisting I ride an elevator up with her, and it was to show me her wedding, which was about to start. My parents and wife joined us up there, and the wedding commenced, but it was not a clearly defined wedding in my dream, it seemed like a bizarre type of festival or party. I was a little offended/surprised that she hadn’t invited me and felt like an uninvited guest, and everyone was reassuring me that I (me) was to be invited the entire time, that it was meant to be a surprise. On every level, it was a strange dream, and possibly rooted in that friend IB didn’t use wife M as her agent last year, plus my other friend T didn’t really (officially or directly) invite us to his wedding. At any rate, it was an odd dream that in no way featured IB’s actual husband…
This is a silly thing, but one of my great badges of honor is that friend IB is an attractive Spanish woman (a coworker once said she was so attractive he took his breath away every time we had a sales meeting) who for many years was my terrific friend, and because of work we had to travel together and we had many lunches together and she even spent Christmas with our family one year, and after many years of this she told my wife indirectly that I never showed any hint of wanting to be more than friends with her or any other female coworker/friend (what she said was she always assumed I had a low sex drive 🙂 ). I love this, because I was always certifiably girl crazy and am 100% heterosexual (men are actually quite disgusting), so the fact I am so true to my wife and it is eveident to other women to the point a very close friend didn’t think I was phyically attracted to anyone made me feel very happy. It goes back to what I always tell the kids, that other than murdering someone cheating on a spouse is probably the worst thing you can do, and just like there are a few people in this world I would truly love to whack but never will, I would never dream of even mentally cheating on my wonderful wife M 🙂 ).
Two nights ago, I dreamed my company was moving offices, and I showed up late on the day we were moving and had not yet packed, so everyone was waiting for me and our owner was upset with me although I tried to explain I was not aware that we were actually moving and that I needed to pack up.
Then last night I had a very strange and fast moving dream. I was part of Sopranos, but Tony Soprano was killing all his family and friends in rapid succession and I was frightened of him. Then the dream changed quickly to where I was wanted for murder and my parents’ long-time friends (N and M) were trying to rat me out, then M himself was a detective trying to capture me and I was on the verge of being captured when my dream ended.
I think the first dream was the insecurity I feel about taking a vacation just a few months after starting (although I’d cleared the vacation before accepting the job and they have been supportive). I don’t know what yesterday’s dream was all about – it was just odd.
In my dream last night, for some reason I went down to see our neighbor M or perhaps I just bumped into her while outside. She had family and friends with her, and I tried to make chitchat, but felt like I was saying the wrong things (unintentionally) that were potentially offensive, basically like those times when you say something and it comes out all wrong. I was with them for a little awhile, and suspected I was supposed to know who some of her family was, but didn’t remember and had to fake it. I finally left, and fretted about it to wife M, who was busy prepping for something and briefly indicated I was probably just being paranoid.
The dream moved around, until I ended up at a theme park that I think was once a golf course. It was a simple park, not unlike Knotts Berry Farm, which I remember as being slightly more spartan than say a Disneyland… We were taking a final ride for the day, and there were a line of people waiting, and I was worried that some people were cutting (like when people are waiting for the bus and it always seems like it is the last people to arrive who simply walk by everyone to get on the but first as he bus arrives). But it turned out that the train was half empty. I was with wife M and the kids but the kids were younger (school age), but then some moments my parents were also there. I ended up sitting down next to a man who I thought was my dad but turned out to be a stranger, so I rose and moved over to sit next next to my dad and son. I asked dad where wife M and daughter L were, and my dad said not to worry, they decided to go a little farther back on the train, and I felt a little offended that M hadn’t worked harder to sit next to me but at the same time I ralized it wasn’t that big of a deal.
The dreams weren’t quite as of a dark lighting as I’ve had – the light was more murky and muted, like on an overcast day, as opposed to the twilight I usually have.
A sliver of my dreams wlast night was about frends T and E, and hoping they would connect. In my dream, they were going on a trip together, which was weird enough, but the fact I was hoping T would be able to romance E is crazy, since both are in permanent relationships of sorts and I would be upset if T tried this in real life. I’m generally highly judgemental when it comes to extra marital relationships (although there are also always two sides). In 25 years I’ve been with my wife I have not even kissed (or hoped to kiss or tried to kiss) another woman, despite several years of working in a night club and having been in roles of influence at tiems and honestly truly holding all women in general in very high esteem. I’ve always preached to my kids, that other than murdering someone or imprisoning them, the worst thing you can do to someone you love is cheat on them, since when you do that you are possibly damaging their ability to trust ever again. (Again, there are always two stories, and I truly love my wife, so I won’t judge). So it is funny that in my dream I was hoping two “married” people would connect – usually it is the opposite. Maybe because I don’t think either of them is in a great relationship, but then again neither one of them is perfect either 🙂
Dreamt that there were three characters, one of them a manipulative character who gave one of her daughters poison to inherit a small fortune she’d inherited. The girl died as they drove out of town on a jalopy. She was then arrested, and the money came back to town and went to someone I was hanging out with (in a setting that was a little like Little House in the Praire and a little like McCabe and Mrs. Miller). The person (who I didn’t know) inherited a relative fortune of 5K in 1800s dollars, and was not going to have to work again, but their luck inspired resentment and jealousy in others. I was thinking the person might be wise to share some of the wealth, that they could work part-time (instead of not at all) to avoid running out of money in their life time while shareing the wealth, which would not only be nice but would still allow the person to live a nice life while avoiding a fate similar to the person who was poisoned for that money; then, without my saying anything, the person had the same idea, and I said that sounded like a good plan. People were smiling and happy about this plan as I woke up. Much of the dream took place in a bar/saloon like place that was elevated on stilts but had an open feel inside, like a hotel bar. All of the area was elevated, like that town in the inner passage of Alaska (can’t recall the name right now 🙂 ).
Once again, the dream took place in a perpetual dusk-twilight setting, as last night’s dream. Am I dreaming in dusk like darkness all the time? Be curious to see.. Maybe it’s because my office doesn’t have windows 🙂
I was at an event where my parent’s were hosting their friends and neighbors (except I didn’t know any of them). I had to leave for a little bit for some reason, and was late on returning, and the group was much smaller and facing a small presentation area, where a man was finishing his explanation on the future plans of Air France, which would make it fifth largest world economy (he mentioned that GE was the largst), and I felt a twinge of worry that the world’s corporations were getting bigger/stronger and soon would replace nations as world’s largest economies. I’m noticing that my dreams the last few nights are perpetually dusk, like they were filmed in one of those dark filters that were so popular in the movies back in the 90s.
COMMENTARY/SOAPBOXING: So many of the world’s “super powers” BCE were city-states. How long before Corporations replace nations as Corporation-States? Ronald Reagan cut back on oversight and taxes, which seems like it won us the cold war, but created huge behomoth and inhuman companies that honestly are running Congress — and therefore America — right now. I know I talk of this often but it is a threat to the common person, I believe. Corporations have created a huge income gap in America while essentially created impoverished workers in third world countries (not named India, China, etc). while creating policies that are destroying our planet and poisoning our people. Teddy Roosevelt helped break up the Trusts in the early 1900s – we need another Teddy Roosevelt. Unfortuantely, that won’t be Clinton or Trump, who make it worse not better.
I’m not a believer in visions and I don’t believe that dreams tell us anything more than what is already worrying or bothering us (consciously or not)*, but I learned today that after a few days of dreaming about my cousin G, he was in the hospital again last night. He is out now, and resting at home, thank goodness. This is not exactly in incredible coincidence – with heart failure and severe strokes, he has been in and out of hospitals often for the past two years. I’d love to say that family and friends getting sick gets less troublesome and more expected as we get older, but it doesn’t and it saddens me that he is ailing.
* My mom is a huge believer in visions and dreams. She’ll dream of someone being in her room, only to find out the person died. But the thing is, so many times those people were already sick and/or ailing, and often in the hospital, so my guess is mom had dreams about that person several times but we only remember the one that actually ends up being correct. For example, Bob my fictonal neighbor can have a chronic illness, and be in and out of the hospital for five years and I dream frequently about that with no result, but then the one time I dream of him and he dies, I’m going to think, “Whoa, I dreamed about him, it must have been a vision.” I genuinely think that people truly believe they have visions and dreams, I’m just not certain they are an accurate forecaster of what is to happen 🙂 But, I’m not an expert and am by no means omniscient, so I may be wrong and will certainly respect differing opinions on this.