After visiting Europe last year where everyone was on their bike and very few people wore a helmet, I had stopped wearing my helmet in recent months, especially since I usually ride my bike on quiet (side) streets, wear normal street clothing (not bike gear), and ride slowly and carefully. But after a debate today with my hair stylist, I went online and researched and there are quite a. Few comprehensive studies that show the importance of wearing a bike helmet, even for slow and cautious riders. So, starting today, I will wear my helmet again.
The Times ran an interesting article today that I had to stop reading because it was kinda upsetting. It was about a high tech prostitution ring where “hobbyists” would pay for sex with youjng women holed up in fancy hotel rooms and later review the girl on an online review board much like you might review a book or movie. Okay, maybe a horny guy is a connoisseur of sex – fine. But let’s be honest in that it is a one way street for the benefit of one (these girls probably make less from a night of sex than the techy Johns visiting them made in a few hours sitting in meetings and at their computer). Also, let’s be honest in that most prostitutes are selling their bodies, often with no choice, because they have no other choices to make a living – if a guy has 400 bucks to spend on one-sided sex, maybe they could instead gave that money to a scholarship or charity fund to help out women such as these. Having sex with a random, nerdy dude would be bad enough but then these girls have to be exposed to some jackass posting a review about their performance. I have a hard time believing most of those men would accept 400 dollars to give another man a blow job, especially if the man then posted a note about the experience, which kind of indicates how one sided the whole thing is.
How sad, and how unkind and unfeeling to patronize and participate in that.
Time was, I more or less refused to put my activity into CRM, as mandated by most Sales Organizations. I figured I was measured by quota, and if I hit quota they’d keep me regardless if I updated CRM and if I didn’t hit quota they’d fire me anyway, so screw them – if they wanted me to update CRM they could get ride of my quota. But the past few years I worked as a manager where CRM was watched soooo closely and it was so chaotic that (to make a long story short) you had to use CRM. So I;ve gotten int he habit of it and am one of the most ardent documentary in CRM now. I still dont think it’s a great tool as compared to effort vs. reward, but when in Rome…
Wife M and I went to the Annex for a drink then to The Big Sick. The Annex’s cocktail was awful – I am not sure how a drink can be too bitter and too sweet at the same time, but it was. Wife M’s drink was too sweet. Won’t be going back there… We loved The Big Sick, which turned out to be a true story based on the Pakistani actor from Silicon Valley’s courtship of his girlfriend, where they fall in love, break up then she gets sick. We loved it – it was a touching, funny and enduring story about lovable characters, and I loved it much in the same way I loved the lovable people in Bend It Like Beckham from 10 years ago. A fun summer evening that ended at a reasonable hour (9:40pm).
Note: her illness reminded me of my mom’s illness in 2009, when she had to be intubated and was in ICU for several weeks where we didn’t know if she’d live, and my dad, sister, wife and I spent a lot of wrenching time together where we all really bonded.
SO many times I can be a good corporate citizen and do the many asks that I am asked, *or* I can be a good sales person.
SPent a portion of this week in Vancouver BC. Some observations: In stead of renting a car, I rode the sky train everywhere. I loved the sky train. With limited inconvenience I could get almost anywhere in the city within an hour plus 15 minutes of walking… I found a couple of decent authentic Mexican Food restaurants… Stayed at Marriot in Burnaby – it was nice, although I like to stay closer to the metro area.
After yet another innocent person was killed by police (a woman who called police to report a crime in her neighborhood was shot in front of their patrol car while in her pajamas!!) it is time to take away guns from police. The odds of innocent people being killed by a police officer seem greater than a police officer saving innocents using a gun – we can always call in SWAT if needed. Or lock their guns away in the trunk. My two cents…
Now-Daughter R has not left her room for six months. She lays in the darkness all day every day, only leaving to go to the doctor for hormones or to sell things on eBay so she can get spells to turn her into a true woman. She is extremely depressed and complains of being suicidal (we’ve been to ER). I know it’s at least partially the hormones and believe she is undiagnosed bipolar, but she won’t listen and she is 19 so the doctors she goes to can’t talk to us, and in the meeanwhile. she tries to monopolize our time with drama withouth taking any of our advice. I know from experience she would starve to death if we didnt keep the fridge stocked – since she was a baby neither rewards nor punishments have helped, which was always a source of many parent-teacher meetings (she wouldn’t listen in class, and didn’t respond to various strategies on working with her such aS a reward or a punishment). I feel like she needs serious psychiatric help — even inpatient stuff – but doctors and hospitals and psychiatrists ahve not been able to help. Aaarghhh. Tomorrow I am going to start from scratch – I will start calling psychiatrists to see if anyone can help us make a plan for our daughter. I wish there was a clinic we could take her to, something like the Mayo Clinic but for severely depressed young adults.
I think I’ve read about every president in US History, and we’ve had some bad ones but I genuinely don’t think we’ve ever had a worse one than Donald Trump. Jimmy Carter was awful as President but had good intentions, and Coolidge, Hoover, Johnson, Grant and a few pre-Civil War Presidents were horrifically inept but I don’t think they were willfully damaging. Trump colluded with a major antagonist to influence our “free” elections, is fighting the press, antagonizing allies of 50 years, damaging the environment, put awful people with no credentials in key positions while leaving others blank, pushing healthcare legislation that will hurt 10s of millions of innocent people, taking us backwards (coal) on energy sources, emotionally empowering racist organizations, uses the Presidency to enrich himself while in office (at least Bill/Hilary waited until after his term to enrich themselves), isn’t addressing in any way the increasing class disparity, and basically putting America on hold while China, Russia and our European allies move forward with plans and strategies. We Americans (me included) are basically waiting 4 years, but can we wait 4 years? Will we Americans (me included) rise up and demand justice? We’ll survive I think, but 4 years — or action — can’t get here soon enough.
I am a fan of a quick email on benign stuff since people can respond when they have a moment. But my peer always calls and calls several times a week and honestly it is disruptive and stressful since I have a lot to do. The people who insist that a phone call is more efficient are completely misguided – a quick topic can be handled in two minutes of email exchanges rather than a 10 minute phone call.